Most men in their lifetime will experience premature ejaculation.
According to research, 30 to 40 percent of men experience this, so as you can tell, it is a pretty common condition.
It does beg the question, why do so many men experience premature ejaculation? One of the leading causes of premature ejaculation is performance anxiety.
Causes of performance anxiety
From research, more men than women are diagnosed with performance anxiety. This is because, more than women, men tend to feel the need to bring their A-game to every sexual encounter. Sex is a pleasurable activity to be enjoyed between partners. However, your state of mind and emotions determine how much you want the act or, if at all.
Several things can cause you to worry during sex. They include;
- Fear that you might not perform or please your partner in bed
- Insecurities about your looks, body, or weight
- Relationship problems
- Fear that you may ejaculate too early or may not ejaculate on time
- Anxiety that your penis size may be found disappointing
Additionally, suppose you’re with a person. In that case, you find extremely attractive and have been looking forward to your first time together, worrying that you might not measure up will make it even more difficult.
When these happen, it can trigger the release of stress hormones epinephrine and norepinephrine. These hormones thin the blood vessels meaning your penis would not receive enough blood or get and maintain an erection.
Premature ejaculation can cascade into more problems. You can grow from being anxious during sex to terrible performance in bed, leading to more anxiety. It is important to nip it in the bud before it causes more harm.
Steps to overcoming premature ejaculation.
Be open with your partner
This is essential to your defeating premature ejaculation. Have open and honest conversations about it with your partner. It will help ease some of your worries and may also help to grow intimacy in your relationship.
Invest in foreplay and oral sex
Explore other ways to enjoy your bodies outside of penetration. Take time to pleasure each other with your fingers and tongue and indulge in oral sex. You can take some of the pressure off and still please your partner.
Exercise
Exercising will boost your confidence in your body and give you the stamina to stay in bed.
Distract yourself
You can distract yourself by thinking random thoughts when you feel the excitement building.
See a doctor
It is advisable to see your doctor if the condition has persisted consistently for up to 3 months, causing frustration and further anxiety.
Your doctor will likely begin the examination by asking about your sexual history. While some of the questions may seem invasive, it is essential to answer them correctly and truthfully so your diagnosis can be accurate. If your problem is medical, medications will be prescribed. If the problem stems from performance anxiety or stress, the doctor might refer you to a sex therapist.
A doctor on Doctall is available to speak with you on this health concern or any other one you might have.